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Give Up On Saying YES To Things That Don’t Support Your Goals

Someone — Sun, 27 May 2018 20:38:37 +0000

“He who would accomplish little must sacrifice little; he who would achieve much must sacrifice much; he who would attain highly must sacrifice greatly.” — James Allen Successful people know that in order to accomplish their goals, they will have to say NO to certain tasks, activities, and demands from their friends, family, and colleagues.[...]

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Give Up On Playing Small

Someone — Mon, 21 May 2018 12:35:58 +0000

“Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone, and as we let our light shine, we unconsciously give[...]

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Be yourself

Someone — Fri, 18 May 2018 16:06:58 +0000

Be yourself. Don’t waste time and energy trying to be and do what you think others want you to do and be. And most of the time, your actions trying to be what you think others want won’t make you happy. They won’t make others like you any better. Instead of trying to please others,[...]

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The meaning of life is the meaning you decide to give it

Someone — Sat, 12 May 2018 00:31:45 +0000

The meaning of life is the meaning you decide to give it. Some people are searchers. They wander through life looking for answers…but rarely find them. Others accept without question what an outside authority tells them is true. The meaning of life comes from within, from the things that you learn to prioritize and value.[...]

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Focus on what you can control

Someone — Sat, 05 May 2018 00:38:59 +0000

You’ll be happier if you focus on efforts and attention only on the things you can control. Each of us has a large number of things about which we’re concerned: our health, our family, our friends, our jobs; world affairs, the plight of the poor, the threat of terrorism, the current political climate. Within that[...]

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You have the freedom to choose how you respond

Someone — Fri, 04 May 2018 00:38:59 +0000

You have the freedom to choose how you respond to any event. In the classic Man’s Search for Meaning, Victor Fankl writes, “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of human freedoms — to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” He based[...]

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Staying in a relationship

Someone — Thu, 03 May 2018 00:38:59 +0000

Staying in a relationship out of a sense of obligation or pity is not a good reason. Sometimes you really do have to walk away — from a friendship, from a family member, even from a romantic partner. Yours isn’t the only story in this world; sometimes it’s better to be somebody else’s villain than[...]

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When good things happen to people you know, help them celebrate

Someone — Wed, 25 Apr 2018 00:47:10 +0000

When good things happen to people you know, help them celebrate. Their success does not diminish you. Be happy when your friends and family achieve something cool. If a co-worker gets a raise, be supportive and not jealous. Approach life as if it were a win-win game. Because it is.

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Give without the expectation of return

Someone — Tue, 24 Apr 2018 00:38:59 +0000

Give without the expectation of return. Help other people — even if it costs a bit of money or time. Don’t always expect a financial payoff. Don’t get offended if your effort isn’t acknowledged or appreciated. Help because it’s the right thing to do, not because you want to be noticed.

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You’re more likely to regret the things you don’t do

Someone — Mon, 23 Apr 2018 00:38:59 +0000

You’re more likely to regret the things you don’t do than the things you do. That’s not to say you should be an inconsiderate jerk, or that you won’t regret making big mistakes. But generally speaking, you’re more likely to be sorry that you didn’t introduce yourself to the barista at the coffeehouse, didn’t go[...]

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You don’t need permission

Someone — Wed, 18 Apr 2018 00:38:58 +0000

You don’t need permission. When we’re young, we wait for our parents and teachers to say it’s okay to do the things we want to do. As an adult, you don’t need permission from anybody else. Do you want to quit your job and travel the world? Do it. Do you want to learn how[...]

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Be encouraging

Someone — Mon, 16 Apr 2018 00:38:58 +0000

Be encouraging. Support the creative, positive actions of others. There are a lot of people out there who want to tell others what’s wrong with their actions, why the things they want to do can’t be done. They’re quick to criticize small mistakes instead of praising the greater effort. Don’t be this way. Do what[...]

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Don’t make assumptions

Someone — Thu, 05 Apr 2018 00:38:58 +0000

Don’t make assumptions. The flip side of not taking things personally is to not assume you know what’s going on in other people’s heads. Don’t assume you know the motivations for their actions. Just as their reality doesn’t reflect your reality, your life is not theirs. Give people the benefit of the doubt.

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Don’t try to change others

Someone — Sun, 01 Apr 2018 01:05:13 +0000

Don’t try to change others. “Attempts to change others are rarely successful, and even then are probably not completely satisfying,” Harry Browne wrote in How I Found Freedom in an Unfree World. “To accept others as they are doesn’t mean you have to give into them or put up with them. You are sovereign. You[...]

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Life is like a lottery

Someone — Fri, 30 Mar 2018 00:38:58 +0000

Life is like a lottery. You receive tickets every time you try new things and meet new people. Most of these lottery tickets won’t have a pay-out, and that’s okay. But every now and then, you’ll hit the jackpot. The more you play — the more you say “yes” to new friends and new experiences[...]

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You get what you give

Someone — Thu, 29 Mar 2018 00:38:58 +0000

You get what you give. Your outer life is a reflection of your inner life. If you think the world is a terrible place, the world is going to be a terrible place. If you think people are out to get you, people will be out to get you. But if you believe people are[...]

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Take care of yourself

Someone — Wed, 28 Mar 2018 00:38:58 +0000

Take care of yourself. If you’re not healthy, it’s tough to be happy. Before you can take care of your friends and your family, you need to take care of yourself. Eat well. Exercise. Nurture your mind, body, and spirit. Your body is a temple; treat it like one. If you don’t have your health,[...]

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